感恩

I am really, sincerely thankful to God, His great mercy and love, send me my husband, advisor and family, without them, I won't be today.

I feel extremely lucky and spoiled to be in His grace. Words cannot express my feeling right now how grateful I am.

Oh, Lord, I Thank you very much for everything I've experienced. It is humble to have you in my life.

I've complained a lot, abandoned myself, but you never left me nor forsake me. I just pray that I dwell in Your house and hear you and honor you.

Please keep my husband and kids and everyone who I cherish and cherish me, who prayed for me over the years in your palm and may your grace pour upon them forever.

Thank you!

老公

必须要赞俺的老公!

老公回国一个月(34天)(大使馆/领事馆政策可否统一?[发怒]可否对继续保持中国国籍的海外华人提供优质的帮助?)因为孩子们的旅行证没有办下来。

额独自一人带俩男娃,跟学生同事一周8-10小时meeting。带着孩子们参加4个夏令营。带3个学生准备全国竞赛,2个学生research projects,2个NSF proposal。带着孩子们画画,下棋,Lego robotics。一日三餐,收拾家。一个人顶俩人用。额已经瘦了5磅(要想减肥吗?)办俩儿子生日趴🎂。吃的少,睡的少,干得多,优质母牛。
老公临走之前给做了6个大袋子的馒头包子(怕饿着我们[偷笑]),冰箱塞满,跟邻居说好帮着割草,keep an eye on us whenever we need。前后院从来没这么好看过[呲牙]。临走前把家彻底清洁好(因为要给孩子们办生日趴,家里只有要请人才会收拾[嘘])。
一个月额从十指不沾阳春水,到了…….能做简单健康的饭[憨笑](不能期望太高[偷笑],喂饱了不饿着就不错了),还能干地里拔草的活(不会种菜[偷笑]),还养了诸多植物,鱼-Betta fish,蝴蝶🦋)。我就是wonder woman!

写到最后到底是赞老公,还是赞自个?Anyway,以前暑假都是夏眠[偷笑][调皮],现在已经进步神速了,发帖纪念。下个帖子是额的第一幅油画作品[呲牙]

Photos with Positive Energy

After you see these photos with positive  energy, stop complaining about anything. Embrace your life!

  
To lease the dog’s arthritis pain

 
The football champion shares his trophy

   
Going home

 
The famous Nick

   
 
True love story begins here

   
    
   
What a happily after!

父母规(ZT)

1) 从此刻起:我要多鼓励、赞美孩子,而不是批评、指责、埋怨孩子。因为我知道只有鼓励和赞美才能带给孩子自信和力量,

批评、指责、埋怨只是在发泄,我的情绪,伤害孩子的心灵;

2)从此刻起:我要用行动去影响孩子,而不是用言语去说教孩子。因为我知道孩子的行为不是被教导而成,而是被影响和模仿而成;

3)从此刻起:我要多聆听孩子的心声,而不是急于评断孩子。因为我知道聆听才是最好的沟通。

4)从此刻起:我要无条件的去爱孩子本来的样子,而不是去爱我要求的样子;因为我知道那是我的自私和自我;

5)从此刻起:我要学会蹲下来与孩子平等沟通,而不是居高临下的指使孩子。因为我知道强制打压只会带来孩子更强烈的叛逆和反抗;

6)从此刻起:我要用心去陪伴孩子,而不是心不在焉的敷衍孩子。因为我知道只有真正的陪伴才能让孩子感受到爱的温暖;

7)从此刻起:我要控制自己的情绪,和孩子一起安静和平地处理好每一个当下。因为我知道脾气和暴力只代表我的无能和对孩子的伤害;

8)从此刻起:我要积极主动地处理好与爱人的关系,创造一个和谐的家庭环境,绝不让夫妻矛盾影响和伤害到孩子,因为我知道只有夫妻关系和睦才是对孩子最大的爱;

9)从此刻起:我要让孩子长成他要长成的样子,而不是我期待的样子。因为我知道孩子并不属于我,他只是经由我来到这个世界,

去完成他自己的梦想和使命。

10)从此刻起:我要多为孩子种善因,行善事。因为我知道种善因,方能结善果,积善之家必有余庆,积恶之家必有余秧;

11)从此刻起:我要通过孩子的问题,找出我自己的问题,修正我自己,因为我知道孩子所有的问题都是我的问题,我是一切的根源;

12)从此刻起:我要成为孩子生命中最好的朋友,最亲密的伙伴,最慈爱的爸爸(妈妈)!

My precious little ones have grown up!

My two boys have grown a lot. They looked like a lot when they were born, but soon after they started to be their own.

For Forrest I prayed for his born, we named him Samuel so that he would be like the perfect Samuel in the Old Testament, be wise. God granted my wish. I prayed for another boy, Nathan was born 4 years later, 2 weeks earlier than the due date, and we named him David, wish he would be like King David, be strong and courageous. I am so thankful for the boys and pray for the wisdom, love and patient to cultivate them, because they are the gift from God. 

They have similarities and distinct personality. I am amazed by God’s wisdom and creation. May your love, mercy and patience be with them always. 

Beibei

Beibei went to his aunt-in-law’s home and enjoyed his time. The next day I started to miss him.

I remembered his favorite sentences: “It’s so beautiful! “His voice confirms you that it is indeed beautiful. “That’s better.” Sounds like bedder. You feel he is so relaxed. “Oh, I’m so sorry!” He will continue to do whatever he wants to do. “I’m tired.” Sounds like he is really tired, but may be not. “I love you, you love me.” You feel so good when he said that. “I’m Anna, you are queen Elsa.” He likes “Frozen” a lot. “Oh, my goodness!”

The other day he made me very angry, so I didn’t have dinner. At 9pm, BaoBao and Beibei started to cook for me. Bao peeled the shrimp one by one and didn’t eat a single shrimp, but Bei, after handing over the plates, started to eat the shrimp one after another. I think we both are the same amount. He is cute, Bao is so sweet!

I am thankful!

婚姻

最近老是在吵吵吵, 吵得我心烦意乱, 我觉得生活质量很低。出去就是吃fast food, 我很想享受一顿美食,意大利餐,一份营养的三明治,一顿海鲜。孩子们也闹,每天都在叫,在哭,大的抢小的东西,小的也特能叫唤。好像每早起来就是吵。我暑期教10个星期的课,没人appreciate it. 老公嫌都付了我整牙的钱。我的植牙完成不了,以前嫌贵,做了一半,拖着。这下好,对应的牙长长了,没法再完成剩下的部分。有的牙也东倒西歪,牙医让去看整形医生,然后建议braces. 现在只能吃软的,蔬菜都嚼不动,洁牙很辛苦,吃饭很不舒服。人家说这是自找的。动不动对我大呼小叫,我也到处发火。这样的日子怎么继续?人家从来不知道认错,never! 我最烦的就是这个。认个错能死?腰疼,孩子哭就抱,继续疼。你可以不抱啊。小孩子也会看脸色的。

就是鸡毛蒜皮的小事,也许量多了,质就开始变了。我发短信说咱们再谈一次恋爱,那不就是重新来过,人家随口答应着,也没行动。

今天宝6岁生日,请了魔术师,和几家小朋友。我从早坐到现在,生闷气。我都有小叶增生了,估计就是气出来的。我也爱生气,胆也不好,说不定什么时候就得把胆割了。

婚姻到底为什么?

Mother’s Day 2014

My two little ones made Mother’s Day gifts for me. Bei used his little foot and Bao went to Home Depot to make that flower pot with note card. Sweet gifts from sweet boys.

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One of my former student also wrote this, i thought it so sweet. Seriously though, my mom rules. First person to love me, first person to work around my childhood querks, always my attorney in the principal’s office (of which I spent a significant amount of time – my childhood friends KNOW this), introduced me to the rock ‘n roll that has subsequently changed my life, whipped me good when I was a little shit, encouraged me to be an audio engineer when I wanted to be, encouraged me to be a rockstar when I wanted to be, encouraged me to be a doctor when I wanted to be, NEVER told me I couldn’t, showed me what a real fighter looks like, showed me what perseverance really means, taught me to take no bullshit, first person I ever respected, last person I would ever betray. My success is only a measure of her support. Love you, moms! Oh, Happy Mother’s Day AND Happy Birthday too. But mostly I just love you.